TherapistGareth King
I’m a psychotherapist specialising in Emotion‑Focused Therapy and mentalisation‑based work with couples.
"I help partners understand the emotional patterns that keep pulling them into the same painful moments — and how to find each other again when things feel stuck."
Couples Therapist
About Gareth
I am Gareth, a psychotherapist specialising in emotion‑focused, experiential work with couples and individuals. I’ve spent the last decade helping people understand the emotional patterns that shape their relationships — the moments of reaching, withdrawing, protecting, and hoping that often sit beneath the surface of conflict.
My background is grounded in Emotion‑Focused Therapy (EFT), and mentalisation‑based approaches. Together, these help clients understand not only what they feel, but why they feel it, and how those emotions make sense in the context of their history, attachment patterns, and relational needs.
My Background & Training
Iam an accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP Accred.) and hold a First‑Class MSc in Integrative Counselling and First-Class BA in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Counselling. Postgraduate trainings are all in Emotion-Focused Therapy.
I began my career working with individuals experiencing depression, anxiety, trauma, grief, and identity‑related struggles. That work taught me how deeply our emotional patterns are shaped by our histories — and how much people long to feel understood, safe, and connected.
Over time, I found myself increasingly drawn to couples work. The emotional intensity, the relational patterns, the possibility for transformation between two people — it felt like the place where everything I care about clinically comes together. That’s where my focus now lives.
What I Believe About Relationships
Most couples aren’t fighting about the content of the argument — they’re fighting about what the moment means.Underneath the frustration is usually a longing: to matter, to feel understood, to feel safe, to know the relationship is still a place you can land.When partners can finally see the emotional logic behind each other’s reactions, the whole dynamic shifts.
How I Work
My style is warm, collaborative, and emotionally precise. I don’t sit back silently; I’m actively engaged in helping you understand what’s happening between you, especially in the moments that feel confusing or overwhelming.
I pay close attention to the emotional process — the micro‑shifts in tone, posture, and meaning that reveal what each partner is trying to communicate beneath the surface. When couples can see these patterns clearly, everything begins to change. Conversations soften. Defensiveness drops. The relationship becomes a safer place to reach for each other.
Warm & Collaborative
I’m actively engaged in the process with you.
Emotionally Precise
I help you slow down and understand what’s happening beneath the surface.
Process-Focused
I pay attention to the emotional patterns between you.
Grounded In Safety
My aim is to help you move from reactivity to connection.
Why I Do This Work
Mam drawn to the moments when something shifts — when a partner says something they’ve never been able to say, or when the other person hears it in a new way. These moments are small, but they change everything. They open the door to safety, closeness, and repair.
Working with couples allows me to help people reach those moments together. It’s where emotional logic becomes visible, where patterns soften, and where relationships begin to feel like a place you can return to rather than a place you brace against. Helping couples reach that kind of connection is the most meaningful work I know.